Saturday, August 28, 2004

Just TELL me what to do--why do I always have to decide?

Mixed messages and different advice seems to go hand and hand with parenting no matter what--but when your child has special needs---OMG--- just digging through the pile of advice--support and information can be a full time job!


Our Attachment Therapist is--All for--the Day treatment program and sees this situation as a blessing! BUT DR. Joe wonders why we would even consider it now that we have found medication and a good combination of therapy and intervention!

So we ask ourselves is DR Joe motivated by the $250.00 an hour and if so why would that be the case when there is such a shortage of child shrinks you know there must be 6 more kids just waiting to get an appointment?

Then we try and consider the prospective each person involved has....and The attachment therapist clearly has a great deal of 'HANDS on' with Adopted children having raised four of her own and fostered 16 more....BUT DR Joe was an Adoptee who came from an orphanage at the age of 8.

And some of the biggest issues I feel underlay the situation is the sexulaized behaviors---which ONLY DR Joe has seen because he is a man.

He seems to feel the medications are helping enough and that Makala is NOT really having too many problems in School so why mess up a good thing?


and the more confused we get---the more likely a space will open up sooner---forcing us to make a decision.... so I expect they will call me next week and say they have a space for her-----and CRAP we will have to decide. Everyone knows that no matter what we decide at some point or another we will regret any decision we make today!

Isn't that how it always works?

But, DR Joe is still playing around looking for the right combo of meds....and he seems to feel Makala is dealing with RAD--PTSD--and possible Bi Polar and Possible ADHD....and that everything is a treatable situation...... HE cut out the Clonidine and instead added a Ritilan Boaster for the Afternoon.

And he is suggesting that there is something other then the Risperdal which may not have the hunger and weight gaining issues with it.....

At this point in time I am starting to think that maybe we should stick it out with the mainstream and not place her into day treatment and this is a decision I will likely question for the rest of my life..... We are however going to attend a meeting at the center and continue to maintain an open mind....until we have to decide.

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