Thursday, November 18, 2004

RAD and Reading--what a SCAM!

WE JUST got home from Therapy!!!!! Very fun morning to say the least!

Today we talked about school and the fact that daddy and I are having a terrible time with the READING homework and it seems like she is simply NOT learning to do it....or something??? WELL--the therapists pulled out a book and guess what???? Makala can read just fine so long as it is not mom or dad trying to HELP her!!!! HOW RADISH IS THAT!!!!!

Not sure how I feel about the advice we have to work with the next few weeks but, have to trust the therapist a little on this.... She suggests that we give it a try every night with our job in the area of reading--BUT that if Makala is not interested in doing her best we can quit trying and tell her that she can learn at school....then make sure we spend time reading to Jeremiah and teaching him his ABC's.... and wait for Makala to get envious... because she will..... At the same time therapists suggest we play some games like Hang Man and Scavenger hut with words for clues.... trick her into learning to read but not make it so obvious that we are doing something we have to do because the school says we have to....????

anyway an interesting point of view... Makala knows we are supposed to be responsible EVERYNIGHT to spend 20 mins reading with her.....and it has become one of the most painful 20 mins of our lives.... Trying to help her is literally PAINFUL to our ears......and it is so hard not to mock or get angry when she actually tries to convince us she does not know what the simply letters "A" is.... I am 'A' Fool!

Some discussion on neurological delays and its effects helped me today...and learning that MANY RAD kids are Kinetic learners has given me a road to research... We have also discussed the option of holding her back a year which truthfully I am not crazy over---

We did have the chance to have her admitted to day treatment...I had thought we had lost this option a month or two ago but found out we have not...And because we have found a good doctor the day treatment center is keeping her on the list....because they will hold her spot to see how medications are doing.... Then last week I thought again I had to decide once and for all....but, no we have until January to make our last choice---if meds keep working then we won't go that route--however we do have a few more months to see.... I think if it comes down to holding her back first grade we will go for the day treatment as they do school work and would transition her back into school 24 months later...I would rather not have her held back...she is so tall already and would tower over everyone even more then she does today!

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