Thursday, January 20, 2005

End of the second week

Well I can only say that I hope it is a great sign that things are really rough right now?

Tuesday Makala came home from School and let me know that she is perfect--has no problems and is the leader in her class because she is helping other children work on their problems....And that she will most likely graduate really soon because she is the only one without problems..... I liked the sound of that .

..........and then Yesterday was my meeting day.

First of all they have hired an additional Intern to shadow Makala all day as the Male staff are ALL not comfortable even sitting in the corner of the big room alone with her....

Apparently M gets hurt in private areas and asks for the men to help her....her elbows, feet, and hands have a tendency to place themselves in places they should not go on other persons bodies...

Tuesday at the end of the day she was found whispering in a little boys ear--that they should sneak away and kiss each other...

She apparently only can speak in two ways--Like a little baby or like a mean and nasty person...

She apparently will NOT participate in Group because she does not have any problems to talk about.

After she got home yesterday she was great for an hour and well then the RAGE started.... And didn't stop for three hours. By the time I got the unburned dinner on the table I had heard every hateful word a person is able to even think of....and then some....When daddy came in the door she charged him and attempted to hurt him...then she went for her brother...who then lost it and bit daddy...and had his time out...

As she laid on the floor screaming I hate you and You cannot make me do anything...I walked up the stairs with all the black trash bags...and scooped up everything in her room--EVERYTHING--including her shelf decorations... and tied all 14 bags up and put them in her closet....

NOW I do not have to MAKE her clean up HALF her room in order to go to Church--which she didn't go too... She was NOT being SAFE enough to go to church...

I am mean--but, she has the things that are in the play room and one teddy bear...when she asked me what she was going to do now when she has to go to her room--I told her THINK and without the things getting in her way--maybe she can do a better job of it.

Clearly she will not graduate soon....

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