It seems very clear that when you do the same things expecting a different result then it is a waiste of your time....
If something is not working then the only way to fix it is to change the something.
.....so, that is what I am spending some time thinking about this morning. Both Andrew and the State Adoption Assistance (subsidy) has to be cleared up on a few issues and both need to cough-up the right amount to see to it that I am able to provide them with everything I have on the LIST.
My oldeer kids had enrichment activities and that was when I didn't have anything. I don't even know how we ever afforded the things we were able to give to the older kids, but dang-it they did have enough and exactly the right level of involvement in extra activities. They didn't have ALL the new things but they did get some things that WERE all the Rage. They had as many books as they could read and I could afford. Nintendo and some special things were always updated.
My oldest son had Tiek-won-do and some other classes at the Rec Center, Cub and Boy Scouts, and music tools his SAX! And my oldest daughter had Ballet, and was in a Pageant when she was 7, and Girl Scouts, and her Art Supplies and a lot of things little girls like.
So these costs are going to need to be fully covered--Andrew!
and, I will make sure they are because I am going to re-do the Adoption Assistance with the Exact and Correct dollar amounts I need and for what they are needed to cover. Of course, Andrew that will not include the things that WE NEED in General, therefore these costs are above and over our "General Budget" each week. So this is in addition to MY Weekly Budget, Dear.
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