Thursday, May 29, 2008

Mother Killed with a Hammer by her 14 year old Daughter

Mother dies day after attack

Woman described as devoted to daughter
By David
Hasemyer and Steve Liewer
May 27, 2008

SCRIPPS RANCH – Rebecca “Becky” D'Aoust appeared to
be a devoted
mother to her youngest daughter.

Rebecca D'Aoust
D'Aoust would hurry
to the girl's basketball practice straight from work, and
even though she
might be late, she made sure to be there, a coach said
come in dressed very nice, in her work clothes,”
said Linda Jones, a coach
for a Scripps Ranch basketball team that D'Aoust's
daughter played on. “So
you could see how she wanted to be there for her
D'Aoust died
yesterday, a day after she was hit in the head with
a hammer or some other
blunt object in her home.
Her 14-year-old daughter is
being held in
Juvenile Hall on suspicion of murder.

The San Diego authorities will not comment or confirm the statements from neighbors and community members who have told reporters that the daughter is an adopted child with a history of emotional problems and mental illness.

The 14 year old daughter is being charged as an adult in this case.

It will be very interesting to me to see this case unfold and if the reports are true or not. As I have often written my discussion about Makala's issues are Not a matter of privacy in our community. It has not been difficult for our neighbors or anyone else who sees our daughter to figure out there are some real issues we face on a daily basis.

If the reports that Rebecca's daughter is an adopted child are in fact true, I will also be interested in learning what kind of services and interventions have been offered and used by the family. Did they face the same kind of garbage we have with our daughter? Did the mother ever express concern for her safety as I have? Did this little girl ever attack her mother in the past, when she was younger and smaller and easier for the parent to defend themselves?

...and people wonder why some Mom's feel the need to let the world know about the efforts they make and the fears they have in the back of their minds... I have on more than one occasion suggested that I wanted it to be known in the even that I am murdered during one of these RAGES that I have always done my best for my child, and I love her with all of my heart... I have asked for all levels of intervention and expressed fear for my own LIFE. I have already been hurt more than once in very serious ways that have required surgery... My nose has been broken when I was kicked in the face... My child has broken glass and come after me with large pieces...she has jumped me from behind and assaulted me on more than one occasion.

Yet parents in my situation are told to use the Mental Health system. We tell our stories to people who are supposed to help Us deal with things that may be beyond our control and it seems that in some cases we may end up dead for that fact we love a child.

Parenticide is rare--and even more so with a female child, however when a parent has spent 5 years looking high and low for anyone who believes them and doesn't assume it is some kind of lacking as a parent side a mother has to wonder--should I get a tasser or can of mace? After all no one seems to be able to comprehend how it feels to fear 120 pound 5 foot tall 10 year old with RAGE you would need to witness in order to believe......


1 comment:

    I am an adoptee,I support heather on the fact she needs help and adult jail is not where she should get it.Mental help in adult jails are not effective.I have started a petition in hopes to have 2000 or more by august 15th to send to DA Dumanis and let her see who stands behind this juvenile who is mentally ill and needs effective help.Give her a chance to lead a productive life and recieve teh help she needs. adult jail is not the place she needs to be, yes the crime she did was awful.please read teh petition and sign it, join the now 11 people who have signed.


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