My oldest child had a terrible accident when he was 9-year-old. He was sledding and hit a mailbox post and severed his left leg just below the knee. Thankfully, LifeFlight and the most wonderful surgeon I have ever met was able to re-attach his leg. In a few weeks he will be 25-years-old and while it isn't perfect his leg works and he still has it.
When we were in the hospital all of those weeks after his accident I was able to meet and get to know many other parents there with children. While each of us were in our own state of concern the parents I felt most compassionate for were those who had children born with physical birth defects.
My son had a terrible looking leg but, he didn't have a cleft-pallet or other physical impairment that caused people to take notice. I recall having a difficult time looking at one little girl I met before she had surgery. I'm not sure what was wrong but she had a very ugly growth on her face.
The little girl was about three-years-old and she had been born with this physical defect. On the day of her surgery her mother and I were talking in the hospital cafeteria and she told me that medical insurance wouldn't cover the surgery as it had been considered a "cosmetic" procedure. The mother told me they had saved and worked hard for nearly all of those three years just to be able to afford the surgery her daughter needed so that people would turn away in shock--sort of the way I had when I met the little girl the day before.
Thank goodness for organizations like The Child Foundation Charity. They help children with physical birth defects be able to afford surgery so they can look "normal". 100% of their donations goes towards these surgeries.
I learned about this The Child Foundation Charity by reading a Friends Blog. be sure to pass along this information and if you have a Blog take a moment and consider writing a post about them too.
As much as I will never forget this little girl and her family what I will remember the rest of my life was the look of joy and happiness I could see in her parents face a few days later when they were getting ready to leave the hospital. I will also remember that while their little girl still appeared to be "different" I wasn't compelled to look away when I watched them leave the hospital that day...and I was able to smile back at a pretty little girl I would have never seen without the help of cosmetic surgery!
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