Friday, August 08, 2008

...It has been a busy Week...

Parenting kids who have special issues can be a full time ***Fun JoB*** on a ordinary day... Add on top of that 10-days working a very profitable food booth at the County Fair for the organization that might be one of the most positive things in a child's life and it's as bad as this run on sentence! (Insert Dramatic Sound Effect Here)

With only two more 4 and half hour shifts at the Baked Potato booth and Makala and I will have earned every penny and then some for the funding of all the years activities with the Job's Daughters. This fund raiser is a big deal and Everyone who knows anyone is recruited to do a shift or two. The Girls need to complete 6-shifts for a Free year of costs which is a great deal... Until Mom has served about half of them--because her daughter has a few special needs......

So far, the usual and expected THINGS that any average 10-year old might do or say has happened. Except that, (my fellow parents who understand Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder, FASD children will understand) it has all been with the added Intensity and Duration that only a child with FASD could make everything in life.

The work has been Hard and overall no mother could really expect better out of a child this age--I do recall several recycling events with my "fine" older daughter at this age and other then the Intensity and Duration parts...she was just about as much of a handful.

I did have both the children pose in the Western Photo's (that cost a fortune!) and it was a Hoot! Of course, Makala wanted to dress in the Can-Can girl dress and look about 15 years older then she is---thank Goodness the People running the show didn't allow Little Girls to dress in "those outfits". Makala and Marty were posed as Western Bank Robbers and in a "Wanted" frame -- which I always thought was a cool subliminal message to for them especially...

However, it has added meaning to see them posed as wanted for bank robbery when we realized that the "Extra" $40.00 Makala had to spend at the Fair was really from daddy's office desk drawer--and we had been triangulated for several days over her sudden wealth...


2 comments:

  1. Anonymous8:31 PM

    "Of course, Makala wanted to dress in the Can-Can girl dress"

    Why, "of course?" Do you expect her to act in a certain way, or is it something she's genetically bound to do?

    kids!

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  2. There is always a "normal" degree to all behaviors... There is also the Interesting Side of Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorders FASD and how it sometimes shows up in children...

    What is "normal" all depends on Intensity and Duration... and the history behind things...

    I say, "Of Course" because Makala wanted to dress up in the Can-Can Girl dress for completely different reasons then the ordinary child who does not have a history of sexual abuse--and is not FASD with the stitistical odds of 50% being sexually inappropriate....

    I say, "Of Course" because It would be very nice not to have to notice the clear difference between what is normal and what is kinda scary...

    Anna

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