Saturday, August 02, 2008

Some Fund Raisers and Some of Our Kids

Normally, I can't stand dealing with the various fund raisers required by the schools and other groups my children are part of. Especially, given the fact it seems there is one fund raiser after another these days.

As a parent I generally just purchase the minimum goal or pay the minimum profit expected. We learned a few years ago that the last thing a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder -- RAD dis-inhibited type along with the impulsive behaviors that often come with Alcohol Related Neurodevelopmental Disorders -- ARND, is to have her to go around knocking on the neighbors doors. It's been a good two years since we fell for the School Fund raiser and Makala's goal to WIN the big prize incentive... And our lovely daughter still seems to feel she has permission to knock on the neighbor's door when she wants to do so.

She did Win the Prize incentive but, our family and neighbors have suffered repeated intrusions in the lives with odd requests for funding since that ill-planned one time permission to go around collecting orders. We learned from that mistake it's not a great idea to have a child with RAD and ARND go around knocking on doors for money! Makala has had at least 2-3 great fund raising ideas every month since she was given the privilege of doing so once--nearly 2 years ago.

According to her doctor it's not a good idea for children with her special needs to even take part in such activities. Put a kid with impulsive behaviors and a dis-inhibited personality into the middle of one of those PUMP-YOU-UP fund raiser meetings and assemblies and you have a piece of dynamite with a lit fuse!

Yep--that has been our experience! Some fund raisers are simply not important enough to create the "permission" and entitlement feelings that might be created inside some of Our Kid's as a result of trying to earn a whooping $20.00 for the P.T.A.

There are a few kinds of fund raising activities which have worked well for our daughter, but those are the types that require set times or events where our children are not trolling the neighborhoods or calling every family member listed in our phone book. We stay away from the "take an order" kinds of fund raisers now and take part in things like the booth Makala and I are working shifts in during the 10-days of our County Fair!

It's amazing to me sometimes how the smallest little things make a huge difference for a child with the needs Makala has. Just the subtle differences in similar activities are some of the little things I have learned have a huge impact on Our Kid and family.


  1. I agree. I got really sick of certain fundraisers when my kids were in regular school (we now home chool).

    I drew the line when kids were being forced to wear hats to school otherwise they had to pay $5.00 in order to win a chance to have lunch with the principal. Now do you know any kid in elementary school who would even WANT to have lunch with the school principal?

  2. When I was a kid eating lunch with the principal meant you had done something wrong... But, Birthday Popcycles were always fun to have at last recess with the principal!

    Thanks for sharing yet another funny way that everything has changed!


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