Friday, March 29, 2013

Putting on My Armor and Calling Oregon to stand up For Me

It has been just over 10 years since my husband and I were selected by Oregon DHS Committee process to become the Best Advocates and Adoptive Parents of Our special needs siblings.

I wish there was more information and help for parents after they adopt children from Oregon Foster Care. I have been living a tragic and long story (this blog started when I met my children) and I am about to get screwed over in Washington Divorce Court.

I feel helpless because our children are HIGH special needs and every decision I have made for 10 years has been ONLY about my children and what I promised the State of Oregon Committee when we were selected us as the adoptive parents for VERY Special needs siblings.

Nothing about MY Agreement and the Agreement my husband made seems to matter and the issues about our adopted special needs children have been made exactly the same as just any other divorce. The kids are high-level, line-of-sight special needs. I do not understand how to get the help I need, in order to continue keeping my agreement with the state of Oregon, and my adopted children.

I have needed to make many choices along the journey, for the Best Interest of my children. For a brief time I lived with my husband in the sate of Washington. When our daughter needed services that were Not available in the state of Washington, I Returned with Her to Oregon and have been providing her with Exactly what I promised. I am now parenting Both children, five days a week, and sending them to public school in Oregon.

I am about to be Divorced by their father and the Man who made it possible for me to Promise the Committee I would do just as I have been for the past 10 years. Because, he still lives in Washington this divorce is being handled as any other divorce situation, Except that somehow personal property was handled under Oregon Laws.

I do have some assets, and so does their father which is Part of the Reasons we were selected as the adoptive parents of our children and need some legal help. I think MY kids deserve to be protected Under that State that Chose me to Be their Mother and my husband to support what we promised the committee we would do. I need to do this NOW and have two-weeks to find a way!

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