Monday, July 11, 2016

This Says it All -- She Did It!

  It was a long road--but, this picture says it all! A few days before graduation Makaylah was asked what song sums up her feelings about finishing high school and she said, "Dora's, 'We Did It.'" I flashed back to those first few years--when I became the mother of a beautiful five-year old... and that song...over, and over.

 If anyone took the time to read this whole blog, they would see there were times--I was not sure we would make it. And "We Did It."

All things considered, I could not be more proud of Makaylah! It has to be hard to go through the things she did when she was so little. It had to be heart-breaking to be separated from her birth mother, the only mother she knew--the mother she loved. It had to be confusing to move from one foster home to another foster home and then into my arms.

 Makaylah was a strong little-girl and she will be a strong young woman. It's funny how some of those "RAD" traits I now think of as very good qualities for my daughter to posses. Her strong--will and ability to manipulate any situation to fit her needs could be very beneficial in some career choices she might make.

  It is clear there was/is only one really annoying trait/behavior/whatever you want to call it, that none of the help, therapy, special education, punishment or reward systems managed to knock out of her. That would be her snappy-mouth with the look on her face. I guess, if that is the worst thing a mother can say about her 18 year old high school graduate, then Thank God! And, as a snappy-mouthed woman who has been in trouble for the look on my face more than once I can't help but recall the warnings from my mother. The warnings that she hoped I had a daughter who had a sassy-mouth like me--I can live with this and smile to myself ever time I do my best to be supportive to Makaylah and remind her to work on that.

Here is to a fantastic future and wonderful life Makaylah Maureen (Joy) Ferlitsch, I am so proud to be your mother!




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